Always Prepared For – Romance!

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It’s almost Valentine’s Day!  Are you ready for a little romance?  You might be asking yourself right about now why in the world Daja and I would be writing about romance here at The Provision Room?  Well, we believe in being prepared for any of “life’s little happenings,” and ladies romance does not happen on its own!  You’ve got to be prepared to nurture the love between you and your husband.

When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots are to become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. No … don’t blush. I am telling you some truths. For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away. Doesn’t sound very exciting, does it? But it is!” By Louis de Bernières, from Captain Corelli’s Mandolin

Being prepared doesn’t take lots of money or effort, it’s just a willingness to keep our husbands at the front of our hurried thoughts.  Taking time to pick up little things when we see them so that it’s not a big to-do.  It’s an opportunity for us be creative and nurture our love so that when we’re old and grey we have grown more in love with one another and not grown apart.  It’s an opportunity to honor our husbands.  And can I just say, it’s fun!

Now before we jump into the good stuff, let’s take a minute to talk about the little ways we moms can kill the romantic atmosphere in our bedrooms.

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You are not going to find romance if,

10.  You only ever wear granny panties.
9. Your pajamas are old sweats that should have been thrown out a decade ago.
8. Your bedroom is your office.
7. You haven’t washed your hair in a week.
6. Your idea of sexy is a new denim jumper.
5. Your bedroom door doesn’t have a lock.
4. You save your lipstick for only going out.
3. You save your candles only for power outages.
2. You think the winter months are your shaving sabbatical.
And the #1 way to not have romance…
1. If your bedroom talk consists of things like, “As soon as I go potty and put on my jammies, I’ll be ready to go night night.”

Now that we have that out of the way, let’s talk about ways we can be prepared for romance.

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There are a lot of nifty little ways we can encourage our husbands and let them know we’re thinking about them even when they are away.

1. Keep a set of window/washable markers for leaving him notes on the bathroom mirror, or on his car mirrors.
2. Put a note on his calendar letting him know you are interested in spending “time” with him.  (Perhaps just draw a little heart.)
3. If he travels, hide a pair of your pretty panties in his suitcase or pocket.
4. Send him a “naughty” picture of yourself.  (These don’t have to be graphic, think “cutesy.”)
5. Send him a note in his lunch.

Things to keep on hand at home so that we are prepared for love include,

1. Candles
2. Chocolate
3. A nice bottle of wine or champagne
4. Your favorite romantic movie
5. Special perfume
6. A new piece of lingerie
7. Do the two of you have a favorite song?  Have it ready and play it for him.  How about a little bedroom dance?
8. Romantic games
9. Bath bubbles
10. Massage oil

And for some final tips…

1. If you’re timid about telling him you’re in the mood, then perhaps agree on a code word that lets him know.
2. Don’t forget to touch him often in innocent ways, hold his hand, brush his arm when you walk by, or give him a quick kiss.
3. Tell him you think he’s great and never forget to tell him you love him.
4. Get yourself a trench coat.  Every married woman should own a sexy trench coat.  (I’ll let you use your own imagination for ways to “surprise” him.)
5. Visit the Covenant Spice website.  (This is a Christian company dedicated to strengthening marriage and increasing playfulness and intimacy in marriage.  We are not affiliates, but we do like them! )
6. Valentine’s Day is next week.  Why not go out after the holiday and stock up on a few little things to have around.  Everything will be marked down so in addition to being prepared you’ll save a little cash!

Ladies let me just encourage you.  You are the keepers of the home.  You help the Lord create the atmosphere of love that is present there.  In all your nurturing and care of the children don’t forget to nurture the love between you and your husband.  You will never regret it!

(Linked to Motivation Monday and Marriage Monday)


  1. Winter= shaving sabbatical.. LOL!!!

  2. Great post! It’s easy to treat our most intimate relationship as a casual friendship when we really need to invest time in it.

    Thanks for linking up at Motivation Monday.

  3. Andrea - February 9, 2013

    Kristina, what a beautiful & *very* true post! I love it!! These things aren’t talked about nearly enough & I’m glad you did, when you did… a few days before Valentine’s Day. Bravo!!

    –Andrea
    XOXOXO

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