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It’s a good day to be happy

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Yesterday I had a full five minutes to myself in the car. Not enough time for the full emotional breakdown I felt lay right under the surface. In that brief five minute span I poured out my soul to Jesus. When I got home I went and sat on our well and the tears just flowed. Unfortunately, I was urgently called in to deal with a pressing matter. My husband asked me what was wrong. “I just need 10 minutes to myself so I can have the meltdown I deserve!”

Yeah. Just keepin’ it real. Read More

It's a good day to be happy

Yesterday I had a full five minutes to myself in the car. Not enough time for the full emotional breakdown I felt lay right under the surface. In that brief five minute span I poured out my soul to Jesus. When I got home I went and sat on our well and the tears just […]

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Prayer for the Week Apr 6 – Loving Well

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Every married couple has experienced distance in their marriage.  It’s not a matter of will it come, but when will it be here.  Life encroaches on our relationship and the enemy attacks marriage and family every single day; we’re out-numbered.  As I was reading my devotions this morning the Lord lovingly reminded me of the wisdom of Saint John Paul II, one of the great guardians of marriage and family.

This morning I want to share a couple of scriptures and prayers from my devotional.  May these prayers strengthen you for the journey this week.

~Mathew 19:4-6

[Jesus] said in reply, “Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh’?  So they are no longer two, but one flesh.  Therefore, what God has joined together, no human being must separate.”

Loving Father, I want to love you more and better through my love for my husband.  Let me see opportunities to become one with you by serving him.

~Genesis 2:23-24

The man said:  “This one, at last, is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; This one shall be called ‘woman,’ for out of ‘her man’ this one has been taken.”  That is why a man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife, and the two of the become one body.

In those time when I feel distant from my partner, help me to cling to him.  May our love be united even when we feel the challenges of the world pulling us apart physically and emotionally.

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Every married couple has experienced distance in their marriage.  It’s not a matter of will it come, but when will it be here.  Life encroaches on our relationship and the enemy attacks marriage and family every single day; we’re out-numbered.  As I was reading my devotions this morning the Lord lovingly reminded me of the […]

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10 Movies More Romantic Than 50 Shades! (Plus some creative date ideas!!!)

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I know we are not alone in the conviction that there is nothing romantic about abuse, domination, and lack of respect for human dignity. Dehumanizing violence is not a good theme for Valentine’s Day (a holiday named after a great saint who stood for marriage and true love, even to the point of death).

10 Movies More Romantic Than 50 Shades!

The annual Valentine’s Day French Dinner!

We will most certainly not be seeing the depraved film being billed as a romance this weekend. No Grey, No way!  We hope you will join us in celebrating REAL romance this weekend! Here are our suggestions for movies you could watch with your sweetheart this Valentine’s Weekend!

1. Happythankyoumoreplease

Oh my word. This movie is the best movie no one ever saw.  We have watched it more times than we can count and every time we fall in love with it again.  Check out this scene (and if you don’t hear Jesus saying this speech to you, listen to it again!) and then rent the movie on Valentine’s Day!  This is how a man woos a woman and affirms her worth and dignity! This movie is just quirky and fun, has a great sound track and reveals so much about the meaning of love.

2. Ever After – A Cinderella Story

A girl who is strong, knows her mind and gets the prince in the end!

3. An Affair To Remember

This is probably the most romantic and heart-wrenching movie ever! It’s classy and timeless and if you aren’t weeping by the end, check your pulse.

4. Braveheart

Love. It’s not about bondage and domination. Love is about freedom!

5. Sense & Sensibility

Poor Marianne has to learn the hard way, but in the end is able to discern the User from the Lover. And seriously, how is the English countryside not romantic! SWOON!

6. Pride & Prejudice

Classic! And we are partial to the BBC version. It’s rather long, yes. But, if you are sipping tea and eating scones (or drinking wine and eating cheese!) it flies by!

7. The Vow

True love–it’s a commitment to vows no matter what. Love is not just a feeling, it’s a determination and commitment to behave in a loving way. This is based on a true story and it makes you stand in awe.

8.The Notebook

Daja: Having watched my grandmother stand by my grandfather through the slow painful process of dementia, until he went to be with Jesus, I have a soft spot in my heart for this movie.  Two people, in it for the long haul. May we all be blessed with such a love story.

9. The Princess Bride

“Love, true love, is what brings us together today.”  (If you just read that in the minister’s voice, you’re a true fan, as we are!)  This is a great movie for the whole family to enjoy on Valentine’s Day!

10.The Holiday

Sometimes love takes us by surprise and we find it in the most unexpected places. We love this movie (especially the Santa Ana winds…..We are So Cal girls after all…)

Romantic Date Ideas For Real People:

You might think us strange, but we just don’t like going out on Valentine’s Day! It’s crowded. It’s expensive. There are set menus at most restaurants. And those menus are rather cliche. It’s just not our style. Here are some ideas for dates that are fun and romantic and won’t break the bank!

  • Why not watch your wedding video? Pop some champagne, get some strawberries and chocolate, snuggle up on the couch and relive that special day! You could even buy a cake and reenact the cake cutting and cake-feeding (with or without the shoving it in each other’s face!).
  • This is our third year having a French Dinner. Daja and her husband, Kristina and her husband, and two other couples. We make a 6 course meal–from the apertif to the digestif! One of us hosts it in our home with full place settings and candlelight! One gentleman plays the accordion and we drink a lot of wine and take our time. It’s romantic and fun. And beats going out to a crowded, busy restaurant surrounded by strangers hands down!
  • Pack a picnic and go watch the sunset from a beautiful location.
  • Put the kids to bed early or better yet let them have a sleep-over at Grandma’s.  Then light a fire in the fireplace and light some candles and turn off all the lights and unplug your phones and computers.  Pretend there is a power outage and enjoy the quiet!

Just remember, it doesn’t have to cost a lot or look fancy to be a date that speaks love to your spouse.  Just. speak. love.

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10 Movies More Romantic Than 50 Shades!

I know we are not alone in the conviction that there is nothing romantic about abuse, domination, and lack of respect for human dignity. Dehumanizing violence is not a good theme for Valentine’s Day (a holiday named after a great saint who stood for marriage and true love, even to the point of death). We […]

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Baby Steps To Abundant Home Centered Living

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Baby Steps

(Original photo by Haus of Straus)

If you’ve been hanging out in The Provision Room for any length of time, you know that we are just consumed with the idea that home is where it’s at. We believe in joyful and abundant home-centered living.  We feature other homemakers from time to time to inspire you that home-centered lives are possible at every phase and in every sphere.  We share recipes and prayers and our struggles and adventures.  All aimed to celebrate and encourage you to live your best home centered lives.

But, let’s be real….it’s tough! The world we live in doesn’t make home-centered living easy.  Read More

Baby Steps

If you’ve been hanging out in The Provision Room for any length of time, you know that we are just consumed with the idea that home is where it’s at. We believe in joyful and abundant home-centered living.  We feature other homemakers from time to time to inspire you that home-centered lives are possible at […]

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Prayer for the Week of September 7 — “God’s grace gave us an easy journey”

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We have been working away on our land and little homestead.  There’s much to do.  And true to His word, God has sent us help.  One of our helpers has been John, an elderly man, friend-of-a-friend who has sort of adopted us.  He shows up in the morning, bearing fruit or corn or a perfect piece of furniture he picked up at a yard sale.  And he jumps in and starts working.

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Today we chatted before the work started.  He said, “I sure wish you folks could have met my wife.  She would have loved you all.”

I asked his wife’s name and when she passed away.  “Her name is Theola.  And she’s been gone four years last April.”

“That’s a lovely name.”

“She was lovely.  She got Alzheimer’s.  But, God’s grace gave us an easy journey. She’s gone home.”

“I sure wish we could have met her already.  But I have no doubt we will.”

“Yes you will.  She was the sweetest and most soft spoken woman. But she fiercely did not want to end up in a nursing home. So, I promised her that as long as I was able, I would keep her in our home. And I kept my promise.  Her one prayer was to die in our home.  And my one prayer was for her to die in my arms.  God answered both our prayers.”

He went on, “You know, some people were upset with me that I didn’t go to pieces when she passed away.  But how could I? God had been so good to us.”

Through my tears, this morning, I prayer, “Lord, may we have the revelation of your grace to see all things from Your hands as good.  May we trust You in all things and lean ever more into Your heart. And God, give us a love for our spouses that transcends our culture, our circumstances, our day-to-day trials. May we pass along this love to our children. In the name of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. Amen.”

 

 

 

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We have been working away on our land and little homestead.  There’s much to do.  And true to His word, God has sent us help.  One of our helpers has been John, an elderly man, friend-of-a-friend who has sort of adopted us.  He shows up in the morning, bearing fruit or corn or a perfect […]

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Happily Incompatible

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After hearing how my husband and I met (which is a long crazy story) a new friend asked, “And you guys just match? You fit each other so well?” (You see, we come from two completely different cultures and upbringing.)

The automatic answer was “Sure!” However, I got to thinking about it later. I don’t think that’s the whole truth. We don’t necessarily match.

Happily Incompatible

Happy 14th Anniversary, Honey!

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Happily Incompatible

After hearing how my husband and I met (which is a long crazy story) a new friend asked, “And you guys just match? You fit each other so well?” (You see, we come from two completely different cultures and upbringing.) The automatic answer was “Sure!” However, I got to thinking about it later. I don’t think that’s […]

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Loving Ourselves

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Jesus said to him, “‘You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ “This is the first and great commandment. “And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ “On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.”  Matthew 22:37-40

It’s the LOVE month.  Last week we encouraged you to go the extra mile in showing love and affection to your spouse.  We hope it inspires you to be ready for romance, not just on Valentine’s Day, but every day.

Today we would like to encourage you to show a little extra love and tenderness to yourself. Read More

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Jesus said to him, “‘You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ “This is the first and great commandment. “And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ “On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.”  Matthew 22:37-40 It’s the LOVE month.  Last week we encouraged […]

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Always Prepared For – Romance!

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It’s almost Valentine’s Day!  Are you ready for a little romance?  You might be asking yourself right about now why in the world Daja and I would be writing about romance here at The Provision Room?  Well, we believe in being prepared for any of “life’s little happenings,” and ladies romance does not happen on its own!  You’ve got to be prepared to nurture the love between you and your husband.

When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots are to become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. No … don’t blush. I am telling you some truths. For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away. Doesn’t sound very exciting, does it? But it is!” By Louis de Bernières, from Captain Corelli’s Mandolin

Being prepared doesn’t take lots of money or effort, it’s just a willingness to keep our husbands at the front of our hurried thoughts.  Taking time to pick up little things when we see them so that it’s not a big to-do.  It’s an opportunity for us be creative and nurture our love so that when we’re old and grey we have grown more in love with one another and not grown apart.  It’s an opportunity to honor our husbands.  And can I just say, it’s fun!

Now before we jump into the good stuff, let’s take a minute to talk about the little ways we moms can kill the romantic atmosphere in our bedrooms.

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You are not going to find romance if,

10.  You only ever wear granny panties.
9. Your pajamas are old sweats that should have been thrown out a decade ago.
8. Your bedroom is your office.
7. You haven’t washed your hair in a week.
6. Your idea of sexy is a new denim jumper.
5. Your bedroom door doesn’t have a lock.
4. You save your lipstick for only going out.
3. You save your candles only for power outages.
2. You think the winter months are your shaving sabbatical.
And the #1 way to not have romance…
1. If your bedroom talk consists of things like, “As soon as I go potty and put on my jammies, I’ll be ready to go night night.”

Now that we have that out of the way, let’s talk about ways we can be prepared for romance.

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There are a lot of nifty little ways we can encourage our husbands and let them know we’re thinking about them even when they are away.

1. Keep a set of window/washable markers for leaving him notes on the bathroom mirror, or on his car mirrors.
2. Put a note on his calendar letting him know you are interested in spending “time” with him.  (Perhaps just draw a little heart.)
3. If he travels, hide a pair of your pretty panties in his suitcase or pocket.
4. Send him a “naughty” picture of yourself.  (These don’t have to be graphic, think “cutesy.”)
5. Send him a note in his lunch.

Things to keep on hand at home so that we are prepared for love include,

1. Candles
2. Chocolate
3. A nice bottle of wine or champagne
4. Your favorite romantic movie
5. Special perfume
6. A new piece of lingerie
7. Do the two of you have a favorite song?  Have it ready and play it for him.  How about a little bedroom dance?
8. Romantic games
9. Bath bubbles
10. Massage oil

And for some final tips…

1. If you’re timid about telling him you’re in the mood, then perhaps agree on a code word that lets him know.
2. Don’t forget to touch him often in innocent ways, hold his hand, brush his arm when you walk by, or give him a quick kiss.
3. Tell him you think he’s great and never forget to tell him you love him.
4. Get yourself a trench coat.  Every married woman should own a sexy trench coat.  (I’ll let you use your own imagination for ways to “surprise” him.)
5. Visit the Covenant Spice website.  (This is a Christian company dedicated to strengthening marriage and increasing playfulness and intimacy in marriage.  We are not affiliates, but we do like them! )
6. Valentine’s Day is next week.  Why not go out after the holiday and stock up on a few little things to have around.  Everything will be marked down so in addition to being prepared you’ll save a little cash!

Ladies let me just encourage you.  You are the keepers of the home.  You help the Lord create the atmosphere of love that is present there.  In all your nurturing and care of the children don’t forget to nurture the love between you and your husband.  You will never regret it!

(Linked to Motivation Monday and Marriage Monday)

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It’s almost Valentine’s Day!  Are you ready for a little romance?  You might be asking yourself right about now why in the world Daja and I would be writing about romance here at The Provision Room?  Well, we believe in being prepared for any of “life’s little happenings,” and ladies romance does not happen on […]

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We left in a truck and came home in a tractor…

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(AKA: Living With One Car)

How many cars are parked in your driveway?  Like most in Southern California we are a two-car family.   My husband has a truck that he drives for work, stocked with his tools and supplies.  It’s essential that he has a truck for work because he’s a skilled carpenter and handyman.  So he’s always hauling and dumping and moving tools around to various job sites.  But, of course we can’t fit our family of nine in the cab of a truck.  So, we have a suburban–that seats 11.   Yes, ma’am.  Eleven.  Just in case we have the kids’ friends spending the night or we have a couple more kids. Read More

Nothing ups your mom cred like having a tire on the front of your car.

(AKA: Living With One Car) How many cars are parked in your driveway?  Like most in Southern California we are a two-car family.   My husband has a truck that he drives for work, stocked with his tools and supplies.  It’s essential that he has a truck for work because he’s a skilled carpenter and […]

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Prayer Post for the Week of September 3rd – God + Submission = Trust

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I’ve been a Christian my whole life.  I don’t remember a time when I didn’t believe in the Lord.  College was hard on my faith, but I still loved the Lord, just not enough to “practice” my faith.  I got married young, two weeks before my 21st birthday.  I specifically asked that the line about me submitting be removed from my otherwise traditional vows.  God has a sense of humor. Read More

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I’ve been a Christian my whole life.  I don’t remember a time when I didn’t believe in the Lord.  College was hard on my faith, but I still loved the Lord, just not enough to “practice” my faith.  I got married young, two weeks before my 21st birthday.  I specifically asked that the line about […]