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Have Home, Will Travel (part of the Home To Me blog hop)

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I am 36 years old. The longest I have ever lived in any one house in my whole life was 5 years.  No, I am not a military brat. My parents are pastors, church planters, trailblazers. And so, we moved. A lot. Unlike some people I do not have that one childhood home where I can remember countless Christmases and sleepovers and Summer vacations. I can’t see trees we planted as children or etchings on walls measuring our heights.  It just isn’t there.  There isn’t a place I can show my kids and say, “That’s where Mommy spent her childhood.”

I’ve loved places and people all over the world. In Mexico. In Pakistan. In Mongolia. In this small town and that big city. I could say that because I’ve left pieces of my heart everywhere that I have no home. Or I can say that I can find myself at home anywhere.

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Making Home: Katie–Part 2

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(We believe in Home-Centered Living.  We believe it’s good for women, men, children, society, the earth. This post is part of an on-going series we are calling, “Making Home” looking at the diverse lives of homemakers and those striving to live Home-Centered Lives. )

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[This interview is PART 2. Read Part 1, here.]

The Provision Room: Thank you, Katie, for the deep truths you shared in Part 1. We are certainly challenged to live fully as God created us to be as women!

OK, so, you have started an amazing new website. Can you tell us a little about it?

Katie: My new business is called Mom Clothes, and its purpose is to offer outfit coaching and style assistance to busy moms on the go. I post photos of my own outfits, offer tutorials for things like choosing clothes that flatter mom curves, and consult with women individually. With my individual clients, we identify their body shape and find clothing that flatters that shape, shopping together and even working on hair and makeup.

The Provision Room: That sounds like a fun job for sure! What inspired you to start it?

Katie: I find great delight in pretty clothes and have made a journey of self-discovery through my wardrobe. Many moms ask me where I shop and ask for wardrobe tips, so I decided to share what I  have learned through a business.

The Provision Room: How do you feel the way we dress impacts the rest of our lives? And do you feel that there can be an intersection between faith and fashion?

Katie: I first understood the impact of clothing when I was a freshman at Notre Dame. I had an 8:30 AM Calculus class, and, I discovered that when I got up half an hour early to put on mascara, curl my hair, and choose an outfit, rather than just throwing on sweat pants, I did much better in class. It was as if I was mentally prepared for my day, and on the days when I was mentally prepared, everything was better. I was on time for appointments, on top of my homework, and felt strong and in charge. But on the mornings when I slept in and didn’t dress with purpose, I felt like I was always running behind. That same law seems to hold true now that I am a mother. I don’t feel like I am fully awake until I am fully dressed, and it’s nice to leave the house knowing that I am prepared for the day. I never find myself wishing that I had put on a cute top or put on mascara, and I never feel like I am underdressed.

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As for faith and fashion, I find myself admiring women who look like them know their value in Christ. There are a few veteran moms at my parish who seem to exude an aura of elegance, courtesy, and grace. It’s as if they have invited Jesus to transform their hearts, and He has made them queens. They are so beautiful! So, yes, in my experience, interior transformation often extends to outward appearance.

The Provision Room: What would you say to that homemaker, who perhaps right now doesn’t feel so queenly, so transformed?  She’s in the thick of things and perhaps she’s not feeling particularly lovely?

Katie: When a mom is struggling, it’s important to ask her lots of questions first. How are her hormones–does she have enough progesterone (necessary for energy, bone density, healthy ovaries/uterus, etc)? If she needs hormonal help, I would refer her to a NaPro practioner or her nearest NaPro Ob/Gyn. Second, how is her mental health? Motherhood is incredibly taxing and can dredge up childhood pain that has never been addressed–maybe she has childhood sexual wounds or scars from physical/verbal abuse and she is beginning to experience PTSD symptoms and doesn’t know what to do. In my own life, motherhood opened many painful memories from my very painful childhood, and I have worked with a counselor intermittently for the last six years. If a mom is struggling, she might really benefit from counseling and/or anti-depressants, anti-anxiety meds, etc. Third, how is her stress level? Maybe she has a new baby and is homeschooling and trying to be super-organic mom (making her own bread, bone broth, kombucha, laundry soap) and really needs help. I would encourage her to get the help she needs. In my own life, I hire a single mom from our church to clean my house every three weeks; she washes the showers and toilets, and I get to take that responsibility off my plate. Also, I hire a homeschooled teenager to come over for two hours twice per week, so that I can sit in my room and read or sew or get coffee. There are all kinds of resources for moms, like freezer-meal clubs and babysitting coops, and moms thrive more when we take advantage of those opportunities.

With regard to clothing, when a mom feels pretty, each of the struggles that I listed above is easier to bear. I have been through so many crucifixion-esque days as a mother–vomiting nonstop with pregnancy, panic attacks from chronic PTSD, three failed adoptions after three years of mothering, necessary hysterectomy in order to save my life–and my heartbreak was a little easier when I got to put on cute skirt and pearls and lipstick. I remember, after Edmund was born and I nearly died from hemorrhaging with a retained placenta and had to have two blood transfusions and emergency surgery, that, when I was finally wheeled back to my post-partum room, I dragged myself into the shower, then got dressed in cute pjs and silky robe and pearls and applied mascara with shaky hands, and, I began to feel better. I felt absolutely poopy, but I felt human again, and that helped tremendously. I was not going to fall apart, sick as I was.

I know that sounds trite, but it’s true. The clothes do make the woman, in some sense, and, even if I feel like my life is a mess and wonder where the heck is Jesus in this, I can “fake it until I make it.” I can dress like I am confident and beautiful. I can dress like my home is my workplace and I take my job seriously and give my very best to my family, even though I really feel like staying in my pajamas all day because I have post-partum depression. The reality that I have repeatedly experienced, even when I was dying inside, was that dressing with care sends a message to myself and to all who see me, namely, that I am a daughter of God and that everything is going to be okay.

[Watch our video on the power of a woman’s body, featuring pictures of Katie and her babies here.]

The Provision Room: Thank you so much for opening up your heart to us! There is a lot to think about here. We know we’ll be coming back to these themes and your words again and again.  Before we let you go, let’s do rapid fire:

Favorite household chore? Washing dishes—it’s a great evening date with my husband.

Least favorite household chore? Scrubbing the shower and tub.

Favorite accessory? My “pearl stack”; it’s really just three strands of pearls from Target, but it looks so elegant together and pearls frame the fame wonderfully.

One thing that has gone out of style that you wish would come back around? Hats. Hats are kind to women—they highlight her beautiful eyes and cheekbones, the hide wrinkled foreheads and unwashed hair, and the mask bad hair days.

What is one thing that is in style that you wish would be gone forever? Geometric print leggings worn as pants. Leggings worn as pants are unflattering on nearly every body type, and I often wish that I did not have to see a fellow woman’s bottom in such minute detail. I’m not looking, but I can’t help but see.

How long does it take you to get ready in the morning? Depends. I wash my hair every three or four day, so on the days when I don’t wash, I can be ready—outfit, jewelry, makeup and hair—in twenty minutes. When I wash my hair, it takes a little longer because I have to blow dry and style my hair.

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A HUGE thank-you to Katie! This interview has been inspiring and uplifting. Now I feel like cleaning out my closet and putting together better outfits! Go follow her on Facebook and Instagram! And visit her website: Mom Clothes.

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(We believe in Home-Centered Living.  We believe it’s good for women, men, children, society, the earth. This post is part of an on-going series we are calling, “Making Home” looking at the diverse lives of homemakers and those striving to live Home-Centered Lives. ) [This interview is PART 2. Read Part 1, here.] The Provision Room: Thank […]

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Making Home: Katie–Part I

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(We believe in Home-Centered Living.  We believe it’s good for women, men, children, society, the earth. This post is part of an on-going series we are calling, “Making Home” looking at the diverse lives of homemakers and those striving to live Home-Centered Lives. )

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We met Katie a year ago online. It was providential. Our hearts immediately felt a kinship, and we had to hold the reigns on our enthusiasm so as not to appear like crazy stalkers. We have been wanting to interview her for a year! So, this piece is a long time coming and much anticipated! Katie inspires us in our faith, in our femininity, and in our homemaking. And really, how many people drop John Paul II quotes in regular conversation? What’s not to love?! She has recently started a new website called MomClothes. She’s a fashionista who has this passion for helping women look and feel their best, honoring their whole person–body and soul.  ENJOY!

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Katie Rose of Mom Clothes

 The Provision Room: Welcome Katie! Please tell us a little about yourself.

Katie: I grew up in the dusty borderlands of New Mexico, spent my undergrad years in Indiana at the University of Notre Dame, and now live in Texas with my family. My wonderful husband, Devin, is a software engineer by day and an author by night; he’s written “The Protestant’s Dilemma” and “Farm Flop.” We are blessed with five children. Edmund is five and Josephine is two and the other three are with Jesus. I am excited about permaculture gardening, beekeeping, and pottery on a kick wheel.

Devin, Katie and their lovely children

 The Provision Room:  Well, let’s jump right in! There’s a stereotype about homemakers and moms in general that a lot of strong women have tried to dispel over recent years. Do you feel there is a stereotype about homemakers?

Katie: Good question. In my experience, most people are more open minded than the media portrays; certainly, words from people like President Obama and Cosmo magazine that denigrate full-time moms make me roll my eyes, but they are the minority. The moms who I know who hold full-time jobs outside the home aren’t dismissive of me as a full-time mom; no one asks if I spend my days getting pedicures and watching soap operas. It can be awkward at a social party, when I meet a new person and am asked, “So, what do you do?” I’ve learned to laugh and make a joke about working overtime but not getting paid for it. In my experience, most people seem to understand that all moms love their kids, whether they are full-time moms or full-time employees.

The Provision Room: It’s rather expected that the greater culture may misunderstand the role of a woman in the family, do you feel that this misunderstanding extends into the Church? How about in the woman herself? Do you feel most women understand their importance in the family and greater culture?

Katie: I am Catholic, so when I speak of the Church, I am speaking of the Catholic church, comprised of her teaching authority (Pope and bishops), doctrine, and her people in the pews. Catholic doctrine describing the precious value of women and their maternity is the most beautiful that I have ever found. I have studied Hinduism, evangelical Christian theology, and Buddhist teachings, and the Catholic understanding of what motherhood is and its fundamental value for the family and human society is the most rich and positive. This same attitude of treasuring mothers extends to Pope Francis and the bishops in general; Pope Francis has emphasized the right of mothers to nurse their babies in his presence and repeatedly praises the sacrifices of mothers. Parish life, however, does not always mirror the richness of Catholic doctrine. People get busy and moms sometimes are viewed merely as chauffeurs, chaperones, volunteers, and lay ministers. But, most parishes try to have groups for moms, to offer support and doctrinal formation. Many Catholics don’t have a personal relationship with Jesus and don’t know the rich beauty of feminine and maternal doctrine, so lay evangelists have much work to do.

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The Provision Room: We appreciate your (brutal) honesty and the challenge for us to share the truth better! How can we as Christian women help in that work?  What steps can we take to share the beauty of feminine and maternal doctrine?

Katie: We as women are most potent evangelizers when we are most fully ourselves. So, let’s start with answering the question, “Who is woman?” Woman is always Beloved Creation, Wife/Helpmate, and Mother. We see these archetypal truths written into our very bodies, and, since our bodies witness to the “shape” of our souls, as Saint Thomas Aquinas taught, then we can learn about our spiritual/emotional/psychological life from our bodies. The body expresses the person, as Pope John Paul II said. What I have just said is very deep and requires entire books to be written, but we don’t have space for that here, so I’ll briefly sum it up by saying it this way: Every woman is created by God for her own sake, as a precious daughter of the Father who is His most treasured beloved. However, we only find our lives by laying them down, in the example of Jesus, so we are only fully known in relation to the masculine; whether a woman is married to a man or consecrates her femininity to Jesus, she is only fully alive in relation to masculinity. Pope John Paul II called this masculine-feminine dynamism “complementarity.” And, as our bodies attest, when we receive the gift from our husband/Jesus (whether spiritual or physical), we bear new life through maternity. We women are always mothers, whether we are blessed with physical children or with hundreds of spiritual children. Sorry! I know that’s a lot of really deep philosophy in one paragraph.

Okay, so let’s look at evangelization through the lens of “truth about women”. First, if woman is a most treasured creation, then she can witness that reality to every person she meets and invite them into that relationship with God; woman, in herself, is the icon of all humanity. Think about the prophet Hosea and how the words that he spoke about his unfaithful wife were really the words of God for the entire people of Israel. Woman, when she joyfully participates in the creature-Creator relationship, is a very powerful missionary. Second, woman as Wife/Helpmate is an icon for every person of receiving God’s gift of love, of being welcoming and docile; Mother Mary is the most deeply alive and rich example of the Bride. She was so totally welcoming to the Holy Spirit that her “let it be done unto me” bore new life in Jesus Christ. So, women witness in a potent way, in their persons, to hearts that are soft and malleable to the Holy Spirit. And, finally, women as mothers offer a wonderful gift that is desperately needed in our lonely and machine-driven world. That gift is an awareness, always and fundamentally, of the importance of the person. Pope John Paul II called this intuitive awareness of the person the “feminine genius”; it means that, no matter where she is–in a physics laboratory, on a construction site, in the kitchen making dinner while nursing the baby, in the classroom, and so forth–that woman makes it personal. She is able to take abstract issues, such as a cancer diagnosis, and see the person behind it and reach that person’s pain. That feminine genius for personal values is fundamental in evangelization because, if people don’t feel like they are loved, then they won’t be open to Christ. Sharing the Gospel has to be first about the heart before it can be about doctrinal truth, and women are geniuses when it comes to the human heart.

As for sharing the truth about feminine and maternal doctrine, in my experience, a woman who is living from the depths of her richness is the most potent book that there is. So, first, a woman who lets Jesus reveal her to herself is incredibly powerful. And, second, intellectual formation is helpful, through reading Song of Songs, for example, and reading the accounts of Jesus’ interaction with women (how He loved women!); also, as a Catholic, I recommend doctrinal documents like John Paul II’s “Letter to Women”, “Mulieris Dignitatem (On the dignity of women)”, and “Man and Woman He Created Them: A Theology of the Body”.

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Living that Maternal Doctrine

The Provision Room: That right there is a lot to digest!  (Mulieris Dignitatem is on our Must Read list for our children!) And the interview just keeps getting better! So, we are going to share this in two parts! Stay tuned for the second half of our special interview with Katie of Mom Clothes! In the meantime, go follow her on Facebook and Instagram! And visit her website: Mom Clothes.  [READ PART TWO HERE.]

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(We believe in Home-Centered Living.  We believe it’s good for women, men, children, society, the earth. This post is part of an on-going series we are calling, “Making Home” looking at the diverse lives of homemakers and those striving to live Home-Centered Lives. ) We met Katie a year ago online. It was providential. Our hearts immediately […]

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Making Home: Bishop Gabe

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(We believe in Home-Centered Living.  We believe it’s good for women, men, children, society, the earth. This post is part of an on-going series we are calling, “Making Home” looking at the diverse lives of homemakers and those striving to live Home-Centered Lives. )

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Today we are talking with Bishop Gabe Abdelaziz of Alpha Beth Ministries and The Revival Center.  He just so happens to be Daja’s dad.  And you’ve met his other daughter and his wife already! He’s passionate about family life.  It has been the focus of his preaching and ministry for more than 40 years.  Enjoy…. Read More

Bishop Gabe and Pastor Dorothy

(We believe in Home-Centered Living.  We believe it’s good for women, men, children, society, the earth. This post is part of an on-going series we are calling, “Making Home” looking at the diverse lives of homemakers and those striving to live Home-Centered Lives. ) Today we are talking with Bishop Gabe Abdelaziz of Alpha Beth […]

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Making Home: Pastor Dorothy

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(We believe in Home-Centered Living.  We believe it’s good for women, men, children, society, the earth. This post is part of an on-going series we are calling, “Making Home” looking at the lives of homemakers and those striving to live Home-Centered Lives. )

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Today we are happy to share an interview with Dorothy, Daja’s mom.  She is a wife of 41 years, mother of three, grandmother of 19, a blogger, speaker, pastor, shower of hospitality, and shoe enthusiast.  We know you will be inspired and challenged! Read More

Four Generations of Homemakers

(We believe in Home-Centered Living.  We believe it’s good for women, men, children, society, the earth. This post is part of an on-going series we are calling, “Making Home” looking at the lives of homemakers and those striving to live Home-Centered Lives. ) Today we are happy to share an interview with Dorothy, Daja’s mom.  […]

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Making Home: Bethany

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(We believe in Home-Centered Living.  We believe it’s good for women, men, children, society, the earth. This post is part of an on-going series we are calling, “Making Home” looking at the lives of homemakers and those striving to live Home-Centered Lives. )

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Two Summers ago, while we were at the Reformation of Food and The Family Conference in San Antonio, we were pleased to meet a young woman by the name of Bethany.  We exchanged contact information and have since become friends via the blog and Facebook.  She’s even guest posted for us a while ago!  When we started this “Making Home” series we knew wanted to include her.  She is a newlywed, a farmer, a photographer and food blogger and a joyful homemaker.  We know you will love her as much as we do! Read More

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(We believe in Home-Centered Living.  We believe it’s good for women, men, children, society, the earth. This post is part of an on-going series we are calling, “Making Home” looking at the lives of homemakers and those striving to live Home-Centered Lives. ) Two Summers ago, while we were at the Reformation of Food and […]

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Making Home: Daja

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“I believe that a godly home is a foretaste of heaven. Our homes, imperfect as they are, must be a haven from the chaos outside. They should be a reflection of our eternal home, where troubled souls find peace, weary hearts find rest, hungry bodies find refreshment, lonely pilgrims find communion, and wounded spirits find compassion.”  (Jani Ortlund)

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Today I (Kristina) am interviewing Daja.  In our last Making Home post Daja interviewed me and told you how we met, and while it’s all true, I thought I would take a moment and expand on some of my thoughts on meeting Daja. Read More

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“I believe that a godly home is a foretaste of heaven. Our homes, imperfect as they are, must be a haven from the chaos outside. They should be a reflection of our eternal home, where troubled souls find peace, weary hearts find rest, hungry bodies find refreshment, lonely pilgrims find communion, and wounded spirits find […]

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Making Home: Kristina

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We believe in Home-Centered Living.  We believe it’s good for women, men, children, society, the earth. This post is part of an on-going series we are calling, “Making Home” looking at the lives of homemakers and those striving to live Home-Centered Lives. 

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We believe in Home-Centered Living.  We believe it’s good for women, men, children, society, the earth. This post is part of an on-going series we are calling, “Making Home” looking at the lives of homemakers and those striving to live Home-Centered Lives.