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You Need More Provision Room In Your Life

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Need a daily dose of Provision Room inspiration?  Or maybe a laugh? Or a cry? Or to hear about our misadventures to put your life in perspective?  We only get around to updating the blog about twice a week.  At the most three!  But, you can find us daily in other places!

The Provision Room www.theprovisionroom.com

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In The Kitchen

MEET WITH US IN PERSON!

We offer a variety of ways to connect with us in person!  We love meeting new people, sharing our love of home-centered living, and learning from lovely homemakers everywhere!

We offer the following classes:

  • Traditional Food (fermenting produce, kombucha and kefir, bone broth, etc.)
  • The basics of cooking and food prep
  • Cooking with children (Parent and child cooking class!)
  • Feminine Joy (turning “That time of the month” into a joyful expression of femininity and creativity!)

We also offer several retreats:

  • Daughters of the King (Weekend or One Day Events)
  • Embracing the Sabbath Rest (One Day and Half Day Events)
  • Food and Social Justice (Experience a local farm-to-table dinner and learn about food as social justice issue.)

Breathe Beautiful

CONTACT US

Contact us with questions, feedback, guest posting opportunities, or to schedule a special event!  theprovisionroom@gmail.com

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Need a daily dose of Provision Room inspiration?  Or maybe a laugh? Or a cry? Or to hear about our misadventures to put your life in perspective?  We only get around to updating the blog about twice a week.  At the most three!  But, you can find us daily in other places! FIND US ONLINE […]

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Chores for all! (age appropriate chore assignments)

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Chores for all

Between us there are 10 children, ranging in age from 17 months to 14 years old.  That’s a lot of laundry, a lot of dishes, a lot of sock-matching and bathroom cleaning.  If we felt it was our job as mothers to do all the housework we would never see the light of day.  And we’d have a few more wrinkles.

Thankfully, we do not feel it is our jobs as mothers to do all the housework.  Our job is to train our children to be mindful and responsible members of society–and that starts in the home! They need to learn as soon as they are able to pick-up after themselves, to lend a hand in everything from meal preparation to basic repairs.  We are all members of this family and we all love this home.  Therefore, we are ALL homemakers.  In recent years our children have been doing more and more with us and for us–from helping us to host retreats to catering Christmas parties for clients.  They do amazing things with skill, beauty and most of all WILLING HEARTS!  This didn’t start when they turned 12.  This started when they were just wee ones toddling around our homes and making messes.

To encourage you in training your children to be equal and capable participants in your home life, we offer a list of what we consider age-appropriate chores for all.  Have thoughts about this? Leave us a comment and let us know what chores your children could do when?  And which ones do they despise and which ones do they like?  And most of all, which ones are you most eager to push off on them because you hate it so much? (I submit the dreaded job of matching socks.)

2-4 years old

  • change hand towels in the bathroom and/or kitchen
  • help put away non-breakable dishes
  • help put away groceries
  • help set the table
  • put toys in toy boxes and shelves

 5-7 years old

  • Tidy toys and bookshelves
  • Put away dishes on their own
  • Set table
  • Clear table
  • Water indoor plants
  • Help with food prep (such as peel garlic, wash vegetables, tear lettuce and greens for salads, etc.)
  • Sort dirty laundry and fold and put away clean laundry
  • Take kitchen scraps to compost bins or chickens
  • Make bed (basically just pulling up the covers)

8-10 years old

  • Sweep porch, steps, walk
  • Clean bathroom
  • Wash dishes (minus difficult scrubbing for pots and pans)
  • Clean cobwebs
  • Dust
  • Vacuum area rugs
  • Prepare simple meals such as PB&J sandwiches, fruit, yogurt, etc.
  • Use stovetop with supervision
  • Help with food prep (such as chop vegetables, bake muffins and cookies, boil eggs, etc.)
  • Do own laundry (sorting, washing, drying or hanging on line, folding and put away)
  • Iron own church clothes
  • Hand raise animals
  • Collect eggs
  • Wash dog
  • Make bed (with higher expectation for neatness)
  • Change sheets

Kids Can Do Big Things

11-13 years old

  •  Help with meal planning and shopping list making
  • Prepare basic meals, including using knives, ovens and stove
  • Sweep and mop
  • Vacuum
  • Wash dishes, including scrubbing pots and pans
  • Clean ovens
  • Organize common spaces (pantry, linen cabinet, coat closet, etc.)
  • Tend to garden, including helping design and plan, harvest, etc.
  • Walk dog
  • Clean chicken pen
  • Tend to compost

14-16 years old (Our children are just entering this phase, so these are our goals for them.)

  • Handle meal planning and grocery shopping
  • Change the oil in the car
  • Change a tire (they must learn how before they get their driver’s licenses)
  • Start a little business to make some money of their own (tutor younger children, give lessons in instruments or dance, baking, babysitting, etc.)
  • Volunteer on a regular basis

Chores for all

Between us there are 10 children, ranging in age from 17 months to 14 years old.  That’s a lot of laundry, a lot of dishes, a lot of sock-matching and bathroom cleaning.  If we felt it was our job as mothers to do all the housework we would never see the light of day.  And […]

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Finding Vocation

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While praying for our children’s vocations, let’s not forget to find our own. God has called us to something and being faithful to that call is where we meet the gladness God intends for us.

“It comes from the Latin vocare, to call, and means the work a man is called to by God.  There are all different kinds of voices calling you to all different kinds of work, and the problem is to find out which is the voice of God rather than of Society, say, or the Super-ego, or Self-interest. By and large a good rule for finding out is this. The kind of work God usually calls you to is the kind of work (a) that you need most to do and (b) that the world most needs to have done. If you really get a kick out of your work, you’ve presumably met requirement (a), but if your work is writing TV deodorant commercials, the chances are you’ve missed requirement (b). On the other hand, if your work is being a doctor in a leper colony, you have probably met requirement (b), but if most of the time you’re bored and depressed by it, the chances are you have not only bypassed (a) but probably aren’t helping your patients much either.

 

Neither the hair shirt nor the soft birth will do. The place God calls you to is the place where your deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger meet.”

 

(Frederick Buechner, Wishful Thinking, A Seeker’s ABC)

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While praying for our children’s vocations, let’s not forget to find our own. God has called us to something and being faithful to that call is where we meet the gladness God intends for us. “It comes from the Latin vocare, to call, and means the work a man is called to by God.  There […]

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The Importance of Role Models

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Role Models

Imitate me, just as I also imitate Christ. I Corinthians 11:1

Role models are important–not only in the lives of children, but in the lives of adults.  We all need that person we can point to and say, “That is the example I want to follow.”  Often however, we don’t have role models–we have celebrities and idols.  We look at someone and want what they have and not to be who they are.  We want the wealth or the fame or the hit selling album or the hot body or the groupies or the show on the Food Network.  But those people don’t always have character we want to emulate. Read More

Role Models

Imitate me, just as I also imitate Christ. I Corinthians 11:1 Role models are important–not only in the lives of children, but in the lives of adults.  We all need that person we can point to and say, “That is the example I want to follow.”  Often however, we don’t have role models–we have celebrities […]

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Um…Nope. 10 Reasons We Don’t Celebrate Halloween and 3 Alternatives

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10 Reasons We Don't Celebrate Halloween and three great alternatives

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Philippians 4:8

We love holidays. All sorts of holidays. We love Advent. We love Lent. We love Christmas and Easter.  We love Passover, Purim, and Sukkot. We love Julia Child’s birthday.

We hate Halloween.  Read More

10 Reasons We Don't Celebrate Halloween and three great alternatives

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Philippians 4:8 We love holidays. All sorts of holidays. We love Advent. […]

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Prayer for the week of September 22 — Here I Raise My Ebenezer

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At the front of my parents’ church there is a big ugly rock.  No one ever mentions it.  No one seems to pay much attention to it.  But there it sits.  And no one moves it, ever.  It’s just there, seemingly without much purpose.  Occasionally, however, someone will ask, “What’s the deal with that boulder?”  And then one of the members who has been there for years will tell the story.  The story of a prodigal who ran from the Lord, from family, from himself.  The story of how he returned and how God restored and how Jesus redeems.  The prodigals do come home. God does hear prayers. God does collect the tears in a bottle. As the bishop once told St. Monica as she interceded for Augustine, “It is impossible that the son of so many tears should perish.” That prodigal put that stone there at the altar of the church and called it his Ebenezer.

I Samuel 7:12, “Samuel then took a large stone and placed it between the towns of Mizpah and Jeshanah. He named it Ebenezer (which means “the stone of help”), for he said, “Up to this point the LORD has helped us!”

Ebenezer

At Kylo Farm, we placed an Ebenezer at the front of our property. It stands there to remind us of the goodness of God.

 There is something really powerful about setting up memorials and reminders.  They may not make obvious sense, but they prompt us to ask.  It’s like the four questions during Passover.  The children ask, “This night is not like other nights.  Why do we have to dip our vegetables? Why do we eat bitter herbs? Why can’t we eat regular bread? Why are we reclining?”  And they get the answers.

These days we like to make things easy, plain, and relevant (isn’t that the catch phrase of late? Everything has to be relevant.).  But, Ebenezers are not like that.  They just sit there being cryptic. They don’t explain themselves.  They don’t have inscriptions or docents who say, “Now, this is what this means….” Ebenezers can be confusing and sometimes odd and perhaps frustrating.  But they prompt us to ask.  And asking is very important.

Matthew 7:7, “Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you.”

Do your children know your stories? Have you raised any memorials so that they can ask, “Mom, what does this mean?” We need to tell our stories, to give witness, to give testimony.  One of the most powerful tools of our faith is our testimony.  And the Ebenezer you raise is what often prompts the telling.

Revelation 12:11, “And they have defeated him by the blood of the Lamb and by their testimony. And they did not love their lives so much that they were afraid to die.”

Ebenezer

At the front of my parents’ church there is a big ugly rock.  No one ever mentions it.  No one seems to pay much attention to it.  But there it sits.  And no one moves it, ever.  It’s just there, seemingly without much purpose.  Occasionally, however, someone will ask, “What’s the deal with that boulder?”  […]

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Prayer the Week of September 15 — Looking Into The Future

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My parents are facing a crisis. Is that dramatic? No, perhaps not.

They are facing a crisis, partly of their own making. Is that fair? Yeah, probably.

And I am following in their footsteps. Is that foolish? No, not actually.

Vocations

You see, my parents raised their children (my older brother, me, and my younger sister) differently than most of the world and most of the Church raised their children.  They always said, “If you want a different result, you have to put in different ingredients.”  Some people might have thought they were too strict, other people might have thought they were too lenient. But most people thought they were a little bit crazy eccentric. Or as our friend, Micha, says, “You’re just special.” Read More

Vocations

My parents are facing a crisis. Is that dramatic? No, perhaps not. They are facing a crisis, partly of their own making. Is that fair? Yeah, probably. And I am following in their footsteps. Is that foolish? No, not actually. You see, my parents raised their children (my older brother, me, and my younger sister) […]

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Prayer for the Week Sept 1 – Praying the Word for Our Children

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When we pray scripture over our children we are praying God’s Word, His promises towards us.  Isaiah 55:10-11 reminds us, “As the rain and the snow come down from heaven, and do not return to it without watering the earth and making it bud and flourish, so that it yields seed for the sower and bread for the eater, so is my word that goes out from my mouth: It will not return to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it.”  Can I get an amen?  If I am faithful to pray God’s words over my children, he will be faithful to accomplish what he desires for them! Read More

When we pray scripture over our children we are praying God’s Word, His promises towards us.  Isaiah 55:10-11 reminds us, “As the rain and the snow come down from heaven, and do not return to it without watering the earth and making it bud and flourish, so that it yields seed for the sower and […]

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Prayer for the Week August 18 – Body Beautiful

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Scale

After years of walking in faith and healing there are some days when I’m lost inside the private hell of internal dialogue and self hatred.  On those days I have a hard time even looking in the mirror because I see every imperfection. Read More

Scale

After years of walking in faith and healing there are some days when I’m lost inside the private hell of internal dialogue and self hatred.  On those days I have a hard time even looking in the mirror because I see every imperfection.

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Pentecost Recap!

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Pentecost

Growing up, my house was the place to be.  My parents made it so.  Have a Friday night with nothing to do? My parents were always game for movie night or cards.  After being out with friends at a party or concert my parents never balked at us having the whole gang over for popcorn and just hanging out.  My house was where everyone was comfortable chillin’ or playing games or as the meet-up spot before crazy you’re-only-young-once shenanigans.  This is probably one of the reason we never got into terrible mischief growing up.  Sure, we went out, hand fun, we enjoyed our youth.  But, we always had something to come home to.  My goal now that I have young people of my own is to make my house the same haven that my childhood home was.  I want all my kids friends to feel the “mi casa es su casa” vibe. Read More

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Growing up, my house was the place to be.  My parents made it so.  Have a Friday night with nothing to do? My parents were always game for movie night or cards.  After being out with friends at a party or concert my parents never balked at us having the whole gang over for popcorn […]